The Trinity

Are you having a hard time still trying to make meaning of the trinity? Are Christians polytheists? What does 3 in 1 God mean? Have a read.
Growing up I never really understood God being three in one. It was only until I really asked questions in my spirit that the Holy Spirit helped me understand.
With the advent of social media and with everyone posting what they think they know (including myself lol), I have realised that lot of Christians also don't get it.
One time someone wrote in his post "...but it is Jesus Christ who came to die for you not God..." Eish saa.
Another time I also read "three in one means four in total. There is a fourth person." My gwad. Lol.
Where in the Bible did these people get all this from?
Non Christians also look at us as people who worship several gods.
To begin with, let me state emphatically that Christians worship one God, the Almighty God who created heaven and earth. We are not polytheists. We don't serve three gods and like someone is even insinuating we do not have a fourth god.
So what does the trinity mean?
The trinity is made up of God the father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.
The other name for God the father is Love.
The other name for God the Son who is Jesus Christ is the Word of God, the Wisdom of God.
The other name for God the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of God.
What this means is that three things define the personality and character of God. It is Love, His Word and His Spirit. In this post the focus will be on the last two because that is what creates the most controversy and confusion.

You can never dissociate a person from his or her words and spirit (thoughts). We always say your words and thoughts determine who you will become. Being created in the image of God means He is also like that.
If you want to know God you have to know His Word and His Spirit. 
At the beginning the Bible in Genesis 1:2-3 says "the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters and God said 'let there be'"(the word).
John 1:1, 14 says 'In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.' So when that person says it was not God who came to die for our sins, he is wrong.
God does not do anything without His Word. John 1: 3 'All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.' Colossians 1: 16 further explains 'for through him God created everything in the heavenly realms and on earth. He made the things we can see and the things we can't see such as thrones, kingdoms, rulers, and authorities in the unseen world. Everything was created through him and for him.'
The Spirit of God backs His Word. It is the Spirit that enforced all the let be at creation. It is the Spirit that made Mary conceive the Word, Jesus Christ. It is the Spirit that empowered Jesus Christ to go about preaching and healing the sick. It is the Spirit that raised Jesus Christ from the dead.

Now what creates the most controversy and confusion is Jesus Christ. Because God was not begotten some say God cannot also beget. This reasoning already is wrong beacause the saying itself is limiting God and takes away His omnipotence.
Jesus Christ being the Son of God does not mean God went to sleep with a woman like the roman myths say. Jesus Christ is the word made flesh, the living word. Jesus Christ is not different from God. He himself said in John 10:30 'I and the father are one'. He said in John 5: 19, 30 'I do nothing unless what the father tells me' because He is the word. In Proverbs 8: 27, wisdom speaking says 'I (word, wisdom, Christ) was there when He (God) was laying the foundation of the earth. God never did anything without His Word. He has always operated through His Word. His Word is life and it gives life. His word is light and it brings light.  His word brings healing and deliverance. Everything you need from God is only accessible through His word, Jesus Christ. Accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal saviour is accepting the Word as the sole rule of your life. Loving Jesus Christ is doing the will of God which is the Word. Jesus said I am the way, the truth and the life. No one can come to the father except through me. (John 14: 6). Nothing moves God but His word alone. If your prayers are not based on His word, His Spirit is not answering them. Imitating Jesus Christ is abiding by His word. When Paul said Jesus is interceding in front of the father for our sake it meant God's word keeps echoing to Him day and night. So when we Christians pray and say in the name of Jesus Christ Amen,  we are saying may it be done according to His Word. This is what provokes the Holy Spirit into action.
Now the other controversy is the Holy Spirit. When Jesus Christ was introducing his disciples to the Holy Spirit before ascending into heaven, some people have interpreted that to mean he was talking about another human being who was to come after Him.
The Holy Spirit is the authority in which God operates. Two people can give you an order(word), you will obey one of them and not obey the other.
The Holy Spirit is the backing force of God's Word. This is what made the dry bones, the fig tree, the sea, the evil spirits, the sick people, Lazarus obey the Word.
The Word can do nothing without the backing of the Spirit. That is what He meant when He said I can do nothing on my own. Until the Holy Spirit descended on Jesus upon baptism, He lived 30 years without doing much. It was the Holy Spirit that kick started His earthly ministry. The Holy Spirit is God's power backing His Word.
Without the word too, the Holy Spirit can do nothing. The Spirit was only hovering upon the waters until God spoke. One cannot operate without the other.
We can only receive the Holy Spirit when we give our lives to Christ and accept Him as our Lord and personal Saviour.
But why do we need the Holy Spirit?
 Without the Spirit, because of our sinful nature we cannot live the Word.
Paul said in Romans 7:18-20 'And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.'
Naturally as human beings we kind of know what is the right thing to do.
Romans 2: 14-15 'Even Gentiles, who do not have God’s written law, show that they know his law when they instinctively obey it, even without having heard it. They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right.'
But why do we not abide by it?
Romans 7: 23 explains 'But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me.'
The only way to live the Word is when this power is replaced by the Holy Spirit.
2 Corinthians 3: 6 says 'the letter kills but the Spirit gives life.' Until the Spirit empowers you to live the Word, you will live a frustrated life because you will do what you don't want to do. You need the Spirit to live the life God has called you to live. We call that the Spirit filled life.
With all that said, let me reiterate that God is One who operates through His Word backed by His Spirit.
I hope this reading has enlightened you. But let me make it clear that in no way do I claim this to be the exhaustive explanation and interpretation of the trinity. And I gladly welcome your contribution. But mind you this is not open in anyway to a debate.

Thank you for taking time to read. If you are still confused, the best place and person I will advice you to go is the Word of God and the Holy Spirit who will show you all things. Only they can give you understanding into this mystery. God bless you.

Ineffective Evangelism

If there is an evangelism system that is ineffective in this world, it is that of Ghanaian churches.
Evangelism in Ghana has become 'come and see, the God in my church is doing things the God in your church cannot do.' Churches are now battling each other for souls. It is more than a pure and perfect competition. People are chasing after miracles so the church which can offer them in great quantity gets more customers.
Churches think they are winning souls for Christ when in actual fact they are not.
They would bypass a muslim and go to someone who is already a Christian or at least a church goer and invite that person to their church telling them 'come and see the amazing things God is doing'. The person, chasing things but is failed to be told to thirst for God, leaves his church which is -1 soul then joins this new church which is +1 soul. His new church denomination is happy and rejoices because they believe God is adding to their numbers. But then when we do the netting, in the CHURCH that is the Body of Christ, nothing has changed. It is the same number of souls; therefore there is no rejoicing in heaven.
How disappointed will they be when in heaven they do not get that big crown that they were expecting.

Evangelism is not about populating your church denomination, it is about populating heaven.
Evangelism is about leading people to Christ not to your church. This means directing a person to the most appropriate church denomination where he or she will grow spiritually which might not necessarily be the church you attend.
Evangelism is not about debating doctrinal differences and winning the argument. Evangelism is about sharing the love of Christ.
Evangelism is about rescuing the perishing. But if you fill your boat with people who prefer yours to theirs because it is bigger and seem to have more goodies to offer, how would you rescue the person drowning?
If the apostles had only spread the good news among the jews, we as gentiles would never have heard of Christ and would not be here today. So then why only share Christ among ourselves?
Everyday a new church springs up in Ghana and every day you hear things happening in this country that you never thought could have happened. There is more and more moral decay each passing day. The question then is what are these churches doing? Who are they saving? Who are they changing? When we cannot even see the effect of their work in the society in which they are.

A church is meant to have an impact and influence in the community in which it is based. A church is supposed to be a lighthouse guiding the lost to the cross. A church is supposed to have a repercussion effect and spillover effect in the lives of people around them.
The honest truth is the church is failing, big time. Enough of my church is better than your church. We are all part of the body of Christ and have distinct roles to play. In function of that role, God gives every church leader specific gifts, anointing and office in order to effectively play the role. The fact that my church doesn't preach what your church preaches doesn't make anyone better than the other. Leading a newbie to a church denomination where it is all about prohecies and deliverance for example wouldn't do the person much good. This person doesn’t know a thing about the kingdom of God, doesn't even understand his salvation and the best place you could take that person to was there?

Let us understand that one person would have to plant , another would have to water, another would have to prune, another would have to harvest. In the end it is the Body of Christ that gains.
When you tell someone to go somewhere before God can change their lives, you are indirectly saying God is limited and you are indirectly caging that person's faith. This is why when later that person encounters challenges, the first thing that comes to mind is let me look for a man of God to pray for me.
When you tell someone to leave their church for yours, remember the person who lives by the sword will die by the sword. Twice I have heard two overseers of two big charismatic churches in Ghana complain that new churches are trying to snatch their members using miracles. It made me laugh because was it not the same method that they used to get most of their members?
The analogy is that of two people fighting over a limited quantity of goods when behind them there is an unlimited quantity. It is that of the workers of Abraham and Lot fighing over green pastures to feed their flock when there is the whole land of Sodom, Gomorrah, and Canaan. It is that of Isaac fighting with the philistines over wells when more wells could be dug. It is like fighting over the 144000 souls mentioned in Revelations 7: 4 when further in verse 9 it says there was a vast crowd too great to count.

As Christian, if you should ever change your church denomination, do it because at that point in time of your Christian life that church is where you can get the spiritual food you need for your spiritual growth. And if you lead a person to Christ, take that person to the church denomination where he or she will get the spiritual milk needed to start their journey in Christ and build a solid foundation.
As an evangelist, understand that you live and work for God not your pastor. And your allegiance is ultimately to your creator.

In God we Trust

NEVER I repeat NEVER expect anything whatsoever from anyone in life. No one owes you anything. It doesn't matter whatever you did for them, they owe you nothing in return.
In life, people will surely disappoint you not because they intentionally want to do so but because of circumstances beyond their control.
Someone can promise you money and may be really willing to give it to you. He or she may be able to give it to you but something can happen the very day he is supposed to give you which will make him unable to fulfill his promise.
That is why the Bible says cursed is the man who puts his trust in man. But blessed is the man that put theur trust in God.

There are no circumstances beyond the control of God. Economic hardship,  weather, political situation do not affect God. That is why Jesus taught us to pray our Father who art in Heaven. When we make that prayer, we place God above every situation, circumstances, limitations, terrestrial boundries in this world.
But to receive from Him, your trust must be completely in Him. The reason we pray and yet we do not receive is that while we are still praying, our mind is searching for options of people who could help us. And the moment we say Amen, we rush to contact that person and tell them what our need is. We shift our focus from God to this person who promises to help us. Then when we are disappointed we turn back to God and start blaming Him. But what has God done? Why must he pay for the inability of someone to help us?

We can only receive from God when He is the only option we have. We can only receive from Him when we pray a prayer of desperation: If God doesn't do it for me no one else can. Total surrender to God is what moves Him to act on our behalf.

My time has not yet come: Waiting for your set appointed time

When it comes to fulfilling your God given purpose on earth, there is something called 'My time has not yet come'.
When Jesus had the opportunity to perform His first miracle, He made it clear to the mother that His time has not yet come.
Imagine being born with the mission to save the whole humam race but having to wait for 30 years before being able to carry out the plan.
Joseph spent 13 years in prison though he knew his brothers will one day bow to him. Moses spent 40 years in the wilderness though he knew one day he will lead the Israelites out of Egypt. David had to wait till age 30 to be king though he was anojnted at the age of 17.
Often we get too excited and burn with passion and zeal at our God given mission that we can't accept having to wait for a few more years before starting. We feel it is too long to wait, that time is passing us by and sometimes we rush and go ahead of God.

But going ahead of God is a recipe for disaster. Jesus knew He was going to be crowned King but He still turned down the offer from the five thousand people He fed to be their King.
There are some offers that you have to turn down no matter how attractive they are. Some opportunities are traps in disguise.
Remember how the devil tempted Jesus in the desert? The devil will always want to give us too good to be true offers; counterfeits of what God has in store for us. We might get enticed by them thinking that is God at work.
If God has not taken you through the necessary test of life and you have not paid the required price but the prize is being handed over to you, decline it.
Jesus knowing he could only be crowned King after he had died and resurrected said no to the devil and to the five thousand people.

Your success in the kingdom will be determined by your ability to hear God speak and your obedience to His Word.
Jesus told the disciples to go into all the world and preach the good news to everyone, everywhere. He also asked them to wait in Jerusalem until the Holy Spirit comes and fills them with power from heaven.
The problem with Christendom is that some only hear go while others only hear wait. Those who only heard go, go without the power of the Holy Spirit and crush. Those who only heard wait, receive the gifts of the Holy Spirit and bury them.
If you want to fulfill your God given purpose on earth, you need to know when to go and when to wait.
So now what did these people do while waiting for God to finally give them the go ahead? They didn't just sit idle. They did something.
At age 12 Jesus was already preaching in the temple. Luke gives account that he grew in wisdom, stature and in favour with God and man. Joseph was diligently managing the affairs of Potiphar's house, later on that of the prison and interpreting the dreams of his inmates. Moses was busily shepherding his father in law's flock. David was doing same with the father's sheep, then joined the army and later on spent 8 years of his life fleeing from Saul but was already leading a large group of people.
What are you also doing as you are waiting for God's signal?
These men spent their waiting years acquiring skills that would enable them to dsicharge effectively their God given duties.

Though God's calling on your life may be clear, you might have to sometimes do somethings that may not in any way seem related to the call. But believe me you all these experiences are shaping you and preparing you for that day.
Peter had to become an expert in fishing before Jesus called him to be a fisher of men. After his call, on two occassions,  Jesus had to give him some fishing instructions. After the second one Jesus now told him 'if you love me feed my sheep.' He ended up becoming the first apostle to preach the gospel in public and over three thousand people gave their lives to Christ. But first he had to wait in Jerusalem for the Spirit to descend.
Do not rush, to fulfill your purpose on earth you need both the skill and the spirit. Mostly acquiring the skill preceed the calling then afterwards the spirit as was the case with Moses, David, Jesus and Peter.
When finally the appointed time came for these men it was undeniable. Pharaoh had a dream that only Joseph could interpret. Moses had an encounter with the burning bush. Saul died and David had to be crowned King. Jesus was baptized amd during the baptism, the Holy Spiriy descended upon him and He was led into the desert for 40 days. Upon returning, Luke gives account in Acts 'how God anointed Jesus with the Holy Spirit and with power and He went about healing the sick and doing good.'

So be patient, humble yourself under the Lord and he will equip you fully and you will be unstoppable.
The whole creation is waiting for the manifestations of the sons of God, your manifestation. So relax and allow God to mould you into a sign and a wonder.

Finally to end, Habbakuk 2: 1-3
I will stand my watch and set myself on the rampart. And watch to see what He will say to me amd what I will answer when I am corrected.
The Lord answered me and said 'write the vision make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry.'
I don't want to comment on this verse if not I will not finish. But I believe it speaks for itself in light of everything I have said above.

God bless you for reading. Byeeee!

Falling in Love with God: Surest Way to Overcoming Sin

If you have never sinned then this post is not for you. Byeee you can leave. But since all have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God and since if you say you have no sin you are not being truthful so please take a seat wai because this post is for you.

We have all struggled with sin before and even probably still struggling with it. We have tried different methods. They work for a couple of day, weeks, months and we fall back into the same old sin again. Sometimes we even give up and decide to remain in our sin till a preacher scares us with hell then we go to God and ask for forgiveness. But then it doesn't last. Soon the fear of hell vanishes and we go back to the same old sin again.  

But here is the thing: the reason why we keep on falling over and over into sin chronically is because we do not love God. Ouch that hurts our hearing. I am not the one saying it ooo.  Check the following verses.    
'If you love me, you will keep my commandments.' John 14: 15. 'If a man loves me, he will keep my words' John 14: 23
'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment.’ Matthew 22:27

‘You must love the Lord your God and always obey his requirements, decrees, regulations, and commands.’ Deuteronomy 11:1

There are many other verses like these. I am even tempted to say that anytime that God talked about obedience to His commandments, it was preceded with loving Him. But since I am not a Bible scholar I wouldn’t say that.

However, with these few verses, we clearly see that obedience to God rises and falls on our love for Him. Our ability to overcome sin is positively correlated with our love for God.


Why we are failing: We have stripped Christianity of love and have made it all about avoiding sin; preaching self-righteousness and muting grace and that is the exact reason why our efforts prove futile. We have gone back to the era of the law. We focus on sin instead of focusing on having a relationship with the God who will empower us to overcome it.

You want to overcome sin?  Here is the solution: Quit struggling with sin and fall in love with God.  


Let me illustrate this so you understand.

You have probably been in a relationship before. So there is this thing at the beginning of the relationship where one of the parties mostly the guy since they do most of the chasing asks the girl ‘what are your likes and dislikes?’ Mostly when I am asked that question, I go like why? (Yea I know I am not romantic at all) and the reply I mostly get is ‘I want to know you so I don't do things that will make you angry and hurt you’. Sometimes some people go to the extent of saying 'I promise to always make you happy. I will never hurt you. I will never make you cry. Blablablabla.' (This saying gives me headache).

So we see that we associate love with pleasure and happiness. When we love someone we want to do things to please the person and make them happy. We don't want to make them angry; we don't want to hurt them. And so the moment your partner repeatedly makes you sad, cry and hurts you, you quickly draw the conclusion that he/she doesn't love you.

Our love is expressed through our actions. 'He who does not love me does not keep my words.' John 14: 24.

The same works with God. When we love God, we want to do things that will please him (without faith it is...uh huh there is a link. I will come back to that point.) And avoid things that will make him sad.

So now you are convinced about the love thing? Yea. Now you probably asking yourself so how do I fall in love with God?

Again let us use Eros love to draw an analogy. After all Paul did the same between Christ and the church and the husband and the wife. Since I am a woman, I will take it from that angle. When you meet a man and he is able to show you beyond reasonable doubt that he loves you (even if he is faking it), there are some hormones bi that your brain releases. Me I don’t know. I didn’t like biology.

The more he shows he loves you, the more you are ready to love in return. The more you are ready to love, the more you start declaring it to him with the incessant I love you, I can't live without you (like seriously??? Were you not living before you met him) you are the best thing that ever happened to me, I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you blablablabla. The more you declare those ‘nansins’, the more you start behaving it.

So there are four things involved: accepting the love (grace), the willingness to love (faith), declaration of love (new birth/rededication), and demonstration of love (work of faith – goodness).  


We love God because He first loves us that even while we were still in our sins, he sent his son to die for us. You need to accept this. We can't do away with this or else we are going back to the law era. Because no man can save himself, Christ had to die for you and I to conquer death and give us victory over sin. You have surely heard this preaching a zillion times. And somehow Christians are seeing that as some kind a Deja vu. I have heard people in church go like 'dabiaa salvation. We want the preaching to change, it is becoming boring.' Really??? We take out that page in the Bible where Jesus is hanging on the cross and there is no Christianity. Reason why we are still struggling in this life is because we do not understand that his death is the foundation of Christianity. 

You want to overcome sin?  This is the solution: accept that Christ came to die for you. And he has paid the price for your sins. He has overcome it for you. This is grace. Accept God’s Grace. No more struggling!
It doesn’t sound that easy right. Don’t worry. It is not a big bang thing, it is a gradual process. Just as you do not fall in love with that guy/girl overnight, same it is with God. Accepting His love puts you on the right path and you can’t go wrong with that as long as you accept it.

The saying goes, where there is a will, there is a way. Over the years, I have come to believe this: if deep inside your heart, what you want most is that God wins the battle against the devil over your life that is what will eventually happen in the long run. It will be slow but sure.

God searches the heart. He knows when you are fed up of being tied up to sin or when you are actually enjoying sin. He knows when you wish to come out of it or when you wished it wasn’t a sin in the Bible. He knows the desires of your heart. So have faith in God. We are saved by grace through faith. He died for you so receive His salvation power to overcome sin. You might not feel like it, look like it, act like it but then that is why it is faith. It is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. It is this faith that will trigger the transformation with grace as the bullet. ‘For without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.’ Hebrews 11: 6
What we think in our hearts is what comes out from our mouths. On the way to new creation, we have to confess and declare. At my lowest state this made me a victor in Christ. Every day I declare God I am a sinner and I can’t do this without you. I have tried and tried and I am tired of trying. So God I surrender everything to you. I surrender my heart, I surrender my mind, I surrender my soul. Take control. I belong to you. I want to live for you alone. God I need you to guide me. Etc… Words are very powerful. With words God created the whole world. Life and death lies in the power of the tongue. The sinner’s prayer is not a one day thing. It is a without ceasing prayer. Constant and continuous declaration of our love and dependence on God even when the things we are doing at the moment is not Godlike takes us to a place of consciousness where we start feeling God all around us. He envelopes us with his love and calms us down. ‘Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.’ 2 Corinthians 12: 9
As we become conscious of God, we begin to see Him everywhere and in everything. We become aware that God is with us. He surrounds us with love. That is when you whisper calmly ‘God you are there right?’ Praying to God and reading his Word will no more be a burden. As a matter of fact, you enjoy doing it because it draws you closer to Him and you get to know more about Him.

You discover more about his love for you, it increases your faith, you declare it in your life, you start behaving it and the cycle goes on and on. Tell me, when you become so busy like this with God, how on earth are you going to get time to even sin.

Following God and serving God is intentional and a conscious thing. It is a decision that you take every morning when you wake up. That today I choose to follow Christ and do His Word. ‘Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there.’ Galatians 5: 24

With that said as humans as we are, we sometimes find ourselves hurting the very people that we love. But when we realize what we have done, we do not try and justify our actions. Rather we show remorse, feel sorry and ask for forgiveness. We avoid situations that will make us offend them. When we love someone that loves us, we do not abuse their love for us. We do not do the same things that they do not like over and over again and come back each time apologizing.
To conclude, Don Moen sang ‘think about his love, this about his goodness, think about his grace that has brought us through. For as high as the heavens are above, great is the measure of our father’s love.’

Let everything you think of, everything you say, everything you do remind you of God and His love for you. This will fill your heart with gratitude and make you love him in return.

‘Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, think on these things’. Philippians 4: 8

I end by stating categorically that I am not perfect, I am a work in progress. I am not a saint, I am a sinner. And I am grateful to God for what He has done for me. Whenever I look at how far He has brought me, I realize I am here on earth for a very specific reason and I cannot disappoint Him. So, the second I realize I am straying away, I rush back quick quick into His saving arms.

Jesus loves you and died for you. That shouldn’t be in vain. Abide in His love. Xox.

Yours Truly,

Akua Akeela AddMens

The Complete Woman

Aside Ruth that desperately went after a man probably because she was a foreigner and if she didn't 'make wild' Boaz would choose a native hebrew woman over her, the Bible is full of men desperately going after a woman not the other way round.

Adam was looking for Eve. Isaac was searching for Rebeccah. Jacob was seeking for Rachel. David was hunting for Bethseda. Solomon was after the Queen of Sheba.

I wonder what these women were doing until their husbands found them. They were most probably living their lives and going about their normal daily activities like it was the norm for Rebeccah to always go fetch water at the well.

But in our days today, now it is we women that are desperately looking for life partners while the men go about their daily lives. Women are made to feel that we have to be all about marriage.

But in the Bible it is the men who were rather made to feel that way. It is not good for a man to be alone. For that reason a man will leave his father and mother and cling to the wife and the two will become one flesh. He who finds a wife finds a good thing. The glory of man is his wife. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. A good wife is a precious gift from God. Etc...etc

Over and over again in the Bible, men were made to aspire for marriage. Now we teach women to aspire to marriage and don't teach men the same. Who are the women going to marry then? Their fellow women?

Time was even taken to explain the criteria of the right woman in Proverbs 31. No where in the Bible was the same done for the right man.

For me all this means one thing. A man has more to gain in marriage than a woman does. So why then are women made to feel what does it profit a woman to gain the whole world and not find a man?

Enough of the pressures!!! You want your daughters to get married? Then teach your sons the importance of marriage.

When we meet a 35 year old single man, it is cool and we ask no questions. But we meet a 35 year old single lady and we start asking why. Why why? Who should marry her when you have been telling men to look for money and the women will come? When you've taught men to place women on the same level as their degree, their job,  their car and their house?

Meanwhile the Bible says the wife will be the helper, she will grant him access to favor, be his glory and his satisfaction.

But will you blame the men that much? For Isaac, Rebecca was worth a journey to a far land. For Jacob,  Rachel was worth working 14 years. David felt Bethseba was worth killing for.

As women let us ask ourselves: can a man look at us and feel we are worth till death do us part?

I believe in the full package woman. As women, we need to be spiritually beautiful,  physically attractive,  mentally sexy, intellectually gorgeous, financially pretty, emotionally elegant, morally hot, socially cute. We have to be the complete package.

Many a times, a man meets a woman and admires an aspect of her that attracts him to her. Sometimes it is her beauty, her commitment to the things of God, how she talks, her perspective on life etc. He then approaches her to get to know her better only to realise whatever he liked about her was not a reflection of her entire life. He is disappointed and walks away.

I am not referring to perfection which is unattainable.  I am rather referring to being a balanced woman. Work on all aspects of your life. Do not single one out and leave the rest.

You can be the most prayerful woman in the whole wide world but if you do not know how to care for people around you and show concern, the man will come and go away.

The woman described in Proverbs 31 was the complete package. The verses described her spiritual, financial, mental, emotional, social, physical life and more.

Live your life and improve on yourself. Rebeccah learnt hospitality and for that a man travelled miles for her.

Be better today than who you were yesterday. Be better tomorrow than who you are today. And by doing so you will be worth it for your husband. For that he will aspire to be with you. Because of that he will travel miles for you.

Enjoy your complete package life!  Wink!

Return to your First Love

This post was inspired by my daily bread quiet time on 16th March 2016 taken from Jeremiah 15: 15-20 on the theme 'heart food'. But when I read the passage, I saw something else and that is what I share with you today.

God told Jeremiah at the beginning of his ministry that he had been set apart and appointed a Prophet to the nations. But in 15vs16-18 Jeremiah was whining and whining.  He was telling God how he had become an expert in God's word, how he was living an upright life and not the sinful life others were living but yet he was suffering. God's reply to him in vs 19 was shocking 'if you return to me I will restore you.' Wait! Had Jeremiah strayed away??? He must have been devastated to hear that.

And that is our story as Christians. We have become 'Bible Scholars' and indulged in self righteousness and become judgemental. We have adopted a 'holier than thou' attitude. We are very busy 'cooking in the kitchen' like Martha and don't have time to 'sit at the feet of Jesus' to listen to Him and 'wipe His feet with our hair and expensive perfume' like Mary did. We feel we are doing more for God than any other person and don't understand why we are suffering. But God is telling us the same thing whenever we complain about our circumstances 'if you will return to me'.

Because the truth is our service to God is zero if we have no relationship with Him. He delights in our relationship with him more than anything else so much He made John write a letter to the church of Ephesus in Revelations 2. He told them how He had seen all their hard work and endurance; how they don't tolerate evil people; how they examine all the claims of the apostles and have suffered patiently for Him. This is very similar to the life Jeremiah was living. But then Christ had one complaint against them:“But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first!  Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you don’t repent, I will come and remove your lamp stand from its place among the churches." This is more like an expanded version of what God told Jeremiah.

It will be very painful to know on judgement day that all this while that we were serving God we had actually strayed away from Him. This is not the time to do any self righteousness as you are reading this saying me dier I always do my devotion, I pray 2 hours each day.  Please! We lose nothing rather we gain everything. Let's just return to God our first love. Let's do that today; let's do that every day.  Because he who says has not sin is a liar, we are all guilty of straying and leaving our First Love including me the writer.

Let's therefore always go to God and say 'God I have strayed away from you. I have abandoned you My First Love. Today I turn back and return to You. Today I start afresh this journey with you.' You do not have to wait to go and commit fornication or kill someone before you come to God this way.

Jesus told the Ephesus clearly if they don't repent, He will remove their lampstand from among the churches;  in individual terms your name from the book of life. They were not stealing, they were not killing, they were not  committing sexual immorality but then they were going to miss heaven because they had left their first love though they were 'active christians'.

So then let us live 'careful' that we do not get to that point of 'comfort' in our Christian journey where we feel we have 'arrived' because for all you know we might have strayed away. Today therefore, let us arise and return no matter how far we have fallen like the prodigal son and our father will surely restore us.

God bless.

Faith Without Works

Having once been a member of a charismatic church for over ten years, I have seen people shout amen to every prophecy that came down from the altar with sooooo much vim and soooo much excitement that I was looking forward to see their lives change in the near future but niet - same old person. On the other hand, I saw those whose amen were only loud enough for themselves to hear bear so much fruit that we saw them the following month/year sharing an amazing testimony of how they held on to a prophecy from the altar and with faith worked with it to get their miracle.

After all these years, it has become a Deja vu for me whenever I see banners of program tagged come and receive this and that and so on and so forth. For me it is a waste of time to go to these events and shout amen at the top of your voice and still go back home to your old ways and expect to see a change in your life, my dear it ain’t happening.

What you need right now is not a laying of hands because I remember when the pastor called for girls who want to get married to come to the altar, there was this rush that could have even led to a stampede mpo. Well as I am writing this, 90% of the girls who went are still single. That was like three years ago.

The thing is God does miracle not magic. Go through your Bible and you realize that everyone that God blessed played a very important role in receiving those blessings. God deals with us on a covenant basis, you do your part and God does his part. And that is where we get it wrong. We want God to do His part but then we do not want to do our part.

Get this: faith without works is dead, yep dead. Actually it is the action that you will take that will demonstrate the faith that you have and move God to act in your life. The reason God is not doing anything is because you are also not doing anything.

Prayer is a very powerful weapon but there is one thing that it can never replace and that is Hard Work. No matter how hard you pray, your prayers cannot move the angels to do your part of the covenant. Mostly the answers to our prayers are conditioned on some actions that we need to take.

For example, after asking God for a job, it is time to write that resume and cover letter and under the guidance of the Holy Spirit send your application to the right company and then watch God do His Wonders. That is how it works.

Don’t misunderstand me or get me wrong. Prophecies, prayers, faith are very important because they build you spiritually and their use is to empower you to go out and do signs and wonders knowing you have God's backing and approval. After all, the world is awaiting the manifestation of the sons of God. So what are you waiting for? Go on and let your light shine. Dassor!!!!